Posted by: everynation | September 20, 2011

Relationship Isn’t a Have to but a Want to. . .

by Paolo Punzalan

‘JUST MET WITH A GUY who sincerely desired to grow his relationship with God. I thoroughly enjoyed our talk.

I loved his humility. He acknowledged He needed God in His life and was ready to do whatever it takes to get from point A to B.

He asked what are the steps to take.  I couldn’t give any.  Not that I didn’t have any in mind, but I didn’t want having a relationship with Jesus be reduced to a series of do’s and don’t’s.

Unfortunately (or fortunately), that’s the thing with relationships.  There are no formulas.

Sometimes, we ‘systematize’ relationships, reducing it to a series of steps.

If I tell my kids…

  • 6pm, when I get home from the office, run to me and give me a hug.
  • 7pm, tell me all that happened in your day
  • 8:30pm, let’s read a bedtime story
  • 8:45pm, give me a kiss goodnight.

They can do all that… mechanically.  But that’s not a relationship.

If they come to me 3:32 AM into our bed and gives me a hug in the middle of the night, now THAT’S relationship.  A pleasant surprise like that would make my day.

If my two-year-old, Joaquin, comes to me while I’m changing the light bulb in the bathroom and says, “I love you, Daddy” … now that’s a relationship.

Same with our relationship with Jesus.

We pray not because we have to but because we get to.
We read His Word not because we need to but because we want to.

I loved what “John” (not his real name) said, “I want to get to know Him not because of what I can get out of the relationship (the benefits, the blessings and what I can gain), but I want to know Him, because I want to know Him.

That meeting made my day.

If I go home now, I would have had a full day already.

Oh, by the way, today, John just surrendered his life to Christ.

THAT never gets old.


Paolo Punzalan is the executive pastor of VictoryFort. He is married to Jennifer. They have four children, Nathan, Janina, Ryan, and Joaquin.

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  1. :) was blessed by this :)

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