Posted by: everynation | May 28, 2009

Sometimes Losing is Better Than Winning

Ron Miller, Jrby Ron Miller

Really? As a very competitive former athlete and coach, I never imagined that I would allow the thought of losing being better than winning cross my mind.

Miss Massachusetts Alison Cronin told she was “shocked” when Carrie Prejean, 21, told Miss USA judge and celebrity gossip blogger Perez Hilton that she believes marriage should be “between a man and a woman.”

Hilton’s question — “Vermont recently became the fourth state to legalize same-sex marriage. Do you think every state should follow suit? Why or why not?” — was considered appropriate for the telecast. Prejean, a student at San Diego Christian College, replied that she personally opposes gay marriage — a response that some, including Hilton, said cost her the Miss USA title.

When is losing better than winning?

It is better when you do not compromise your convictions, suppress the truth or lose your integrity to gain the victory.

No matter how Prejean answered the question, she was going to experience disdain and persecution for her answer. What I admire most about her answer was the fact that she held to her beliefs based upon her Christian faith. Whether you agree or disagree with her answer, you have to admire the fact that she did not all of a sudden become “politically correct” to win a contest. Authenticity and sincerity is much more attractive than physical beauty. It seems that Miss California is fortunate to possess both.

2 Corinthians 6:9-10 is one of the many Scriptures in the Bible that defines homosexuality as wicked and immoral. It says, “9Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders 10nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.”

Perez Hilton called Carrie Prejean a b—- for answering the question based upon her faith convictions. If you are a Christian and believe homosexuality and lesbianism is immoral, and if you believe the institution of marriage should only be reserved for a man and woman in covenant, then that does not mean you are a bigot. It means you believe what the Holy Bible teaches about marriage and proper sexual conduct.

If you don’t like Miss California’s answer you should not get mad at her. Your beef is with God. Maybe you should ask the question, “Why would the Holy Bible define homosexuality as wicked and immoral?” I think an honest pursuit to answer that question would lead to truth and freedom. I would love to help you answer that question if you are struggling with homosexuality or lesbianism. My motive is to speak the truth in love and offer compassion and help.

Carrie Prejean may not have won the crown of Miss USA, but she did win a crown that will last for all of eternity. It is the crown of life given to those who pass the test of faith. James 1:12 says, “12Blessed is the man or woman who perseveres under trial, because when he or she has stood the test, he or she will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.”

Well done Carrie!

Ron Miller, Jr. is a gym rat who blogs regularly at Gym Chats. He is a husband, father, artist and musician stuck in an athletic body, and the senior pastor of Every Nation, Tallahassee.


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